It's an interesting time for me at the moment, I'm newly single and not too happy about it, but time moves on and I'm sure I'll feel better soon enough and be ready to move on with my life.
To be honest I'm quite excited about all the opportunities that this brings, the end of a relationship is a time to reinvent, to reassess who you are and what you're about. See if any of those opinions you held so strongly have changed or if you were holding on to them because you thought you should cling to some unchangeable truths.
I'm fairly sure that I've done some of that, I'm stil trying to overcome the fact that I can be massively co-dependent, and trying to balance that with being a good partner who's helpful and kind without being too helpful and kind and making myself indesposable would be a good thing.
One thing has changed this time though and I think it's a testament to my mental health getting so much better, my opinion has changed on being dumped.
I use to say to partners, "if you ever leave me, please leave me for someone else." People always thought this was weird, that it's far worse to be dumped for someone else than just dumped because there's the extra level of betrayal.
I never understood that, but that's partly because I always though that there's nothing worse than being on your own, so at least if you get dumped for someone else there's a reason; they want to be with someone else.
Whereas, if you get dumped and they're not leaving you for someone else it means that they'd rather be alone than go out with you. And that's much much worse.
To be honest I'm quite excited about all the opportunities that this brings, the end of a relationship is a time to reinvent, to reassess who you are and what you're about. See if any of those opinions you held so strongly have changed or if you were holding on to them because you thought you should cling to some unchangeable truths.
I'm fairly sure that I've done some of that, I'm stil trying to overcome the fact that I can be massively co-dependent, and trying to balance that with being a good partner who's helpful and kind without being too helpful and kind and making myself indesposable would be a good thing.
One thing has changed this time though and I think it's a testament to my mental health getting so much better, my opinion has changed on being dumped.
I use to say to partners, "if you ever leave me, please leave me for someone else." People always thought this was weird, that it's far worse to be dumped for someone else than just dumped because there's the extra level of betrayal.
I never understood that, but that's partly because I always though that there's nothing worse than being on your own, so at least if you get dumped for someone else there's a reason; they want to be with someone else.
Whereas, if you get dumped and they're not leaving you for someone else it means that they'd rather be alone than go out with you. And that's much much worse.
